Imagine getting on a plane and you’re the only passenger. How weird is that! Some may think awesome, I can sleep! Others may find it too quiet or creepy. Your creator or whom ever you believe in made you to be social, to interact, to connect or to Love. That can’t happen when you are by yourself. When you think about the time we have on this earth compared to eternity, it’s pretty dog gone short. So why wouldn’t you take advantage of every opportunity possible to connect and love as many people as possible?
Well a lot of things get in our way. The two biggest: work and fear. Fear of rejection, making a fool of ourselves, or just speaking out loud. But when you let these fears over take you, you lose control or lose out on opportunities. So if work is one of the factors that gets in your way of love and connection, and you are a driven person, you are probably short changing yourself and missing opportunities.
As a keynote speaker or keynote entertainer as some people call me, I have the privilege of traveling a lot. Back in the day I was one of those guys who would find my seat, curl up to sleep, or dive into a movie or book. Can you relate? Until a few years ago when one of my coaches shared with me all of the opportunities I was missing out on by being a hermit. The person sitting next to you could be your next gig, your next best friend. They may know someone you know, they may share knowledge that could change or help you in some way. They might even be your next love connection. Or vice versa, you might have information or a story that could be life changing for them. A pay it forward missed opportunity. If you don’t fly a lot, then maybe you’re like this at work, a restaurant, club or other places where there are lots of people. While traveling to Orlando to speak at a conference, I was fortunate enough to receive my first class upgrade. Sitting next to me was a nice looking older woman who was giving off a really positive vibe. So I asked the standard ice-breaking question that we all know the answer to, “Where are you headed?” “Orlando” she said with a smile. “Where are you from?”, I asked. “Atlanta. I’m heading to the World Championship of Volleyball to see my Granddaughters’ compete”. I didn’t know there was such a thing, but since I love to interview people, I started firing questions off to her. She had ordered a drink and was ready to talk. I could see how she lit up and I wanted to make sure that I was her best seat companion ever.
Before the flight was over I found out that she has been married 5 times, two of the same men twice. She had worked most of her life in the telecommunications business. She supported most of her husbands, had a son who became her priority and she was moving on through life. She asked if I have ever heard of a Rockin’ Blues player named “Joe Bonamassa. “I think I have”, I replied. “ My guitar playing buddy Mark Werner from Missouri is a fan of his.” She went on to say how she became a fan by hearing his music on a bus tour in another country and now follows him around the country. So I said, “You are a groupie”. Her son retired at age 50 after inventing some sort of software and then selling it. Now he is a full time volleyball dad. I also found out that the Red Rock Amphitheater has 322 steps to the bottom. I don’t know about you, but I love to here stories like this. It restores my faith in America and the American Dream. Yes we have a lot of challenges in this country, but it is still the greatest country in the world. Challenges are what make us grow in life and at work, so if you want our country to grow, we must have them too. As I sit on a plane to Tampa with my awesome, amazing family on this 4th of July, I want to thank all the men and women of this country around the world that sacrifice daily for us to have this freedom and daily opportunities to succeed. Also to those who have given their lives. You have a duty, obligation and responsibility to your creator, (who ever you believe that to be). Personally. I choose to believe my creator is God and he wants us to be our best every day. “For me – it’s to be the BEST husband, father, Christian, and speaker I can possible be.” Do you do your best every day? Do you encourage your team and family to do their best everyday? Do you choose love over fear? Do you even know what your best is or what your goals are?
So where am I going with this for you? If you make life or success your duty, obligation and responsibility you are at rock star status. Rock Stars play full out all the time. That’s how you win. That’s how you win big, sell out arenas. That’s how you win consistently. It’s a commitment. What plays a key factor in this for you is Love. You have to love what you do and who you do it with. If circumstances do not currently allow you to love what you do then love why you do it. Or whom you are doing it for. That may mean paying it forward, trying to always be in a positive mood, helping out strangers, and yes talking to strangers on the plane.
Marie is one of my new friends and fans of Marvelless Mark. I told her about my book Opportunity Rocks and gave her a signed copy. I shared stories with her about my touring career, when I headlined at the Venetian at Las Vegas, and my current speaking tour. We exchanged information right as the wheels touched down.
Two weeks ago I received an email from Marie that brought a smile and tear to my eye at the same time. It went like this:
I read your book the next day. It was incredible. How can I order copies???? I have to say reading the book made me realize I was married to five men, not just because they were losers, but they had no goals in life. I always had a goal, working and taking care of my son. Although I no longer work, your book made me realize that although I embrace each day as a gift, I need some goals!!! Leaving Orlando, I was on my way to the airport and saw a helicopter and realized I have never flown in one. As a result I am going to book a helicopter flight around Atlanta!!! I think you are now vacationing with your family in FL. Hope all is well with you and you have fun. My phone number is 770-xxx-xxxx and I guess you can see my email is ……………….. Hoping you will send that photo you took of us. Please let me know how to get books. Marie
Marie purchased 7 books to share with friends, is not afraid to embrace life daily, set goals, play full out, and be her best everyday. Why ? Because she is a rock star. She gets it. Even at her age and being retired. Did I mention she was a two-time cancer survivor of lung and breast cancer? She makes some of us younger peeps look like whining little babies. Thank you Marie for being you, sharing with me, and being a rock star role model to many. Opportunity Rocks and you just proved it.
Please share and repost this article and let’s make changes together. Marvelless Mark Kamp is a Keynote Entertainer who works with organizations who want their teams to achieve rock star results. He does this in a fun, entertaining, and engaging way using the success secrets of rock stars. Mark love’s what he does and wants to share his love and passion of rock star success with the business world.