Picture this: you’re leading a meeting with your team, and you’ve asked a very important question… What ideas do they have to tackle the latest challenge? Crickets. No suggestions are being made; no ideas are being thrown out, and no one is even daring to open their mouths. Your team is afraid to speak up…. Read More >
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The Ultra Ego Secret Your Success to Success
Do you ever feel like you’re “stuck” in your business? You’re doing all the right things, yet you can’t seem to break out of the old “same old, same old.”
5 Benefits of Listening to Your Employees
Have you ever noticed how every band member is tuned in to what the others are doing? Even the term for a performance, a “concert,” is defined as “agreement, accordance, or harmony.” Why? Because in order to make beautiful music, musicians have to listen to one another and play together. If they didn’t, you’d be… Read More >
The Five Traits of Rockstar Presence
When you hear the word “rockstar,” what comes to mind?
If you think of all the greats, from Mick Jagger and Freddie Mercury to Lady Gaga and Beyonce, they all have two things in common… sure, they are all crazy talented, but more importantly, they had/have an amazing energy. Every single one of them has a larger-than-life, charismatic command-of-a-room-when- they-enter presence.
Who Are The Real Rockstars?
Whether you watched the Super Bowl for the game or the commercials, it was hard to miss the
Workday spot featuring Kiss, Billy Idol, Ozzy Osbourne, and many other true rock stars.
The commercial pokes fun at the use of the label “rock star” in the business world, suggesting that
corporate employees in Finance and HR may be good at their jobs… but that doesn’t make them rock
stars. The fact is, while I’ve been teaching leaders and employees how to be “rock stars” in business and
in life for years, the term has been used for more than five decades.
Stop Playing The Comparison Game
Dangers of Comparing Yourself to Others
Be honest; you’ve done it. You’ve looked at a friend, colleague, or fellow human and thought, “Why are they doing so much better than me?”
It’s natural… but it’s not healthy. When we compare ourselves to others, we experience:
Stress/anxiety – When you are constantly looking at what others are doing, you may be tempted to do more and more to keep up with them.
Unrealistic Expectations —You can’t be good at everything (and neither can the person you are comparing yourself to). Believing that we should be experts at everything (and probably the first time we do something) will set us up for pain and disappointment.
Lack of Motivation – While you need to accept the fact that you can’t be great at everything, this acceptance may backfire and leave you feeling like you can’t be great at anything. This leads to a lack of motivation and drive.
Resentment – When you compare yourself to others, you may become angry when you don’t “measure up” to these unrealistic expectations. You may start to look at other people as having done something wrong and be resentful that they’ve achieved something you haven’t. This leads to strained relationships and holding onto unnecessary emotions.
Lowered Self-esteem – When you see others as “better” than you, set unrealistic expectations of yourself, and then experience a lack of motivation when you don’t reach them, it begins to erode your self-confidence.
Fortunately, the moment you realize (and admit) you are playing the comparison game, you get to change your behavior and stop.
How to Stop Playing the Comparison Game
